Today, while posting my most recent blog across social media, I took a few moments to scroll. And what I saw honestly blew me away.
Post after post promised “abundance,” “good fortune,” or “miracles coming your way.” And below each one were hundreds — sometimes thousands — of comments filled with “I claim it!” or “So it is!”
Don’t get me wrong, I love a good manifestation vibe. But this realization hit me hard:
We have faith that liking a post or typing “I claim it” will change our lives…
but we don’t have that same faith in ourselves.
but we don’t have that same faith in ourselves.
We’re putting our belief outside of us — in algorithms, in luck, in someone else’s message — instead of placing it where it truly belongs: inside.
The truth is:
You don’t need to comment “I claim it.”
You don’t need to wait for the universe to notice your like.
You simply need to remember your power — and activate it intentionally.
You don’t need to wait for the universe to notice your like.
You simply need to remember your power — and activate it intentionally.
So if you’ve caught yourself recently “claiming” your blessings during a late-night scroll, don’t feel bad. We all crave connection, hope, and a little magic. But here’s your gentle wake-up call: it’s time to stop claiming and start creating.
How to Step Into Your Power (No Likes Necessary)
Here are five steps to help you shift from passive “claiming” to active creating — and start manifesting real change from within.
1. Pause the Scroll
The next time you feel that impulse to “claim it,” take a deep breath instead.
Ask yourself: What is this post really awakening in me?
Is it desire, hope, envy, longing? Whatever it is, it’s showing you where your soul is ready to grow.
Ask yourself: What is this post really awakening in me?
Is it desire, hope, envy, longing? Whatever it is, it’s showing you where your soul is ready to grow.
2. Name What You Truly Want
Don’t just claim what someone else posts. Get specific about your dream.
What does abundance, love, or peace look like for you?
Write it down. The moment you define it, you begin to give it form — that’s where creation starts.
What does abundance, love, or peace look like for you?
Write it down. The moment you define it, you begin to give it form — that’s where creation starts.
3. Believe in Your Own Power
Instead of saying “I claim it,” try saying:
“I create it. I am capable. I am ready.”
This tiny shift in language moves you from wishful thinking to energetic alignment. You’re no longer waiting — you’re participating.
This tiny shift in language moves you from wishful thinking to energetic alignment. You’re no longer waiting — you’re participating.
4. Take One Aligned Action
Manifestation is momentum. Do one small thing today that supports your intention.
If you’re claiming abundance, look at your finances with clarity.
If you’re claiming love, show love — to yourself or someone else.
If you’re claiming peace, create a moment of quiet.
Every action says to the Universe, “I’m serious about this.”
If you’re claiming abundance, look at your finances with clarity.
If you’re claiming love, show love — to yourself or someone else.
If you’re claiming peace, create a moment of quiet.
Every action says to the Universe, “I’m serious about this.”
5. Trust the Timing, but Keep Moving
Trust doesn’t mean sitting still — it means moving in faith.
When you keep showing up with consistency and self-belief, the universe meets you halfway. Your “claim” becomes your creation because your energy, thoughts, and actions are aligned.
When you keep showing up with consistency and self-belief, the universe meets you halfway. Your “claim” becomes your creation because your energy, thoughts, and actions are aligned.
Final Thoughts
You don’t need to chase every post that promises blessings.
You are the blessing.
You are the blessing.
So the next time you see one of those “Claim it!” posts, take it as a reminder — not to type in the comments, but to tune in to your own magic.
Because the real power to change your life isn’t found in your feed…
It’s found in you.
Honoring the Divine Feminine: Shifting the Mindset Around the Monthly Cycle and Taming the Pain-Body
This morning, a young woman I work with walked into the office and casually said she had “received the woman’s curse.”
It was meant as a lighthearted comment, but it struck me how easily we’ve inherited that language — that being a woman, and experiencing our natural cycle, could be seen as a curse.
It was meant as a lighthearted comment, but it struck me how easily we’ve inherited that language — that being a woman, and experiencing our natural cycle, could be seen as a curse.
I smiled and gently offered a new perspective:
“What if, instead of feeling cursed, you celebrated this as a sacred time — a reminder of your connection to the Divine Feminine?”
“What if, instead of feeling cursed, you celebrated this as a sacred time — a reminder of your connection to the Divine Feminine?”
Her face softened.
And it reminded me of something Eckhart Tolle once said in The Power of Now:
And it reminded me of something Eckhart Tolle once said in The Power of Now:
“The pain-body in women tends to become activated particularly just prior to and during the menstrual flow… If you are able to stay present and alert at that time, every old emotion that arises in you will be transmuted into consciousness.”
That passage has always stayed with me — because it reframes the menstrual cycle not as something to dread, but as an opportunity for presence, purification, and power.
The Pain-Body and the Power of Presence
According to Tolle, the “pain-body” is the emotional residue of past pain that lives within us — a collection of old wounds, trauma, and suppressed emotions. For many women, this energy awakens cyclically, often around menstruation.
When we resist it — by labeling it as “bad,” “unfair,” or “a curse” — the pain-body grows stronger. But when we meet it with awareness and compassion, it begins to dissolve.
That’s where presence becomes medicine.
Instead of reacting, we breathe.
Instead of resenting, we listen.
Instead of numbing, we feel.
Instead of resenting, we listen.
Instead of numbing, we feel.
This is how we transmute pain into power. Each month offers an invitation to deepen our connection with our body, our emotions, and our inner wisdom.
Reclaiming the Sacred Feminine
Our cycles mirror the rhythm of nature itself — creation, release, renewal. The moon waxes and wanes; the tides rise and fall; the seasons bloom and rest. We, too, are cyclical beings.
The Divine Feminine invites us to honor that rhythm rather than resist it.
Menstruation isn’t a punishment — it’s a cleansing. A physical and energetic release of what’s no longer needed. A reminder that we are powerful creators capable of bringing life — not just biologically, but energetically and spiritually.
When we begin to see our cycles as sacred, our relationship with ourselves begins to heal.
From Curse to Ceremony
Imagine if every time your cycle began, you saw it as a time to slow down, journal, nurture your body, and reconnect with your intuition.
What if instead of saying, “I got my period,” you said,
“I’m entering my renewal phase,” or
“My body is asking for stillness,” or
“I’m shedding to make room for what’s next.”
“I’m entering my renewal phase,” or
“My body is asking for stillness,” or
“I’m shedding to make room for what’s next.”
This mindset shift transforms the experience from something we endure into something we honor.
Even a small act — like lighting a candle, wearing comfortable clothes, or placing a hand on your womb and saying “thank you” — can shift the energy from resistance to reverence.
Taming the Pain-Body Through Love and Awareness
Here’s how to begin working with your cycle as a spiritual practice:
- Be Present with Your Body.
Notice sensations without labeling them. Pain, fatigue, emotion — they are messengers, not enemies. - Release Judgment.
Stop calling it a curse. Stop apologizing for it. Instead, speak words of gratitude for your body’s intelligence. - Create Space.
Use this time to rest, reflect, and listen. The insights that come when we slow down are often the whispers of the soul. - Transmute Emotion into Consciousness.
When irritability or sadness arises, breathe deeply and remind yourself: This is energy moving through me. I am safe to feel. - Celebrate Your Divinity.
Whether through ritual, journaling, or self-care, use this phase as a reminder of your cyclical nature — and your power to renew.
The next time someone refers to their cycle as “the woman’s curse,” maybe you’ll smile and say —
“It’s not a curse. It’s a ceremony.”
“It’s not a curse. It’s a ceremony.”
A monthly return to your divine feminine essence.
A chance to tame the pain-body through love, awareness, and presence.
A sacred reminder that being a woman is — and always has been — a gift.
A chance to tame the pain-body through love, awareness, and presence.
A sacred reminder that being a woman is — and always has been — a gift.
Fifty. The Big 5-0. Holy Smokes! I can hardly believe I’m writing this—but here I am, staring down this monumental milestone with excitement, a little nostalgia, and a whole lot of anticipation for what’s ahead.
In 76 days, I’ll be stepping into my 50s—a new decade, a fresh chapter, the second half of my life. And rather than seeing it as something to dread, I’m choosing to see it as a doorway. A threshold. A moment where I can look back at everything I’ve experienced, learned, and accomplished—and then boldly declare that the best is yet to come.
Looking Back with Gratitude
As I reflect on the first 50 years of my life, I can’t help but feel a deep sense of gratitude. Life hasn’t been perfect—far from it—but it’s been rich, colorful, messy, beautiful, and deeply meaningful.
I’ve loved, I’ve lost, I’ve grown, I’ve struggled, I’ve laughed until my sides hurt, and I’ve cried tears that reminded me just how much I care. I’ve reinvented myself more times than I can count, and each time, I’ve discovered more strength, more wisdom, and more resilience than I thought possible.
Every scar tells a story. Every triumph reminds me of my power. Every mistake shaped the person I’ve become.
And now, standing here at the edge of this new decade, I see it all with softer eyes. Not judgment. Not regret. Just appreciation for the journey.
The Best Is Yet to Come
Here’s the thing: I know in my bones that turning 50 isn’t an ending—it’s a beginning. It’s the start of the most powerful, purposeful, joy-filled chapter of my life.
There’s a freedom that comes with reaching this age. A freedom from worrying so much about what people think. A freedom to live life on my own terms. A freedom to put myself first, unapologetically, and to chase after the dreams that are still burning inside me.
The best is not behind me—it’s ahead of me.
76 Days of Preparation
That’s where this countdown comes in. I’ve got 76 days to prepare—not just for a party or a birthday candle blowout, but for a full mind-body-soul reset.
I want to step into my 50s with my physical, mental, spiritual, and financial health stronger than ever. That means:
- Physical: Moving my body in ways that bring me energy and joy. Nourishing myself with food that feels good. Prioritizing rest and recovery so I feel vibrant when the big day arrives.
- Mental: Reflecting on my journey so far, setting fresh goals, and nurturing my curiosity. I want my mind sharp, resilient, and open to new adventures.
- Spiritual: Deepening my connection to my inner self, my values, and the divine. Cultivating gratitude and presence as I step into this new era.
- Financial: Getting grounded, intentional, and abundant in how I manage my resources—because security and freedom go hand in hand.
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about intention. About stepping into my 50s with a strong foundation and a clear vision of the kind of woman I’m becoming.
A Celebration of Life
So yes, I’ll be celebrating BIG when the day arrives. But more than balloons and cake, this milestone is about celebrating life itself. It’s about honoring the path that brought me here and stepping boldly into the one that lies ahead.
Fifty is not something to fear—it’s something to embrace with open arms and a full heart.
76 days to go. Let’s do this.
In March 2020, the unthinkable happened. Practically overnight, the world shut down in response to COVID—and at the very same time, I made the life-altering decision to leave my husband and move out of my marital home.
It was the first time I had ever lived on my own, and the timing felt strangely perfect. While most people saw the shutdown as an obstacle, I felt it was a blessing. In fact, I sometimes wonder if the universe orchestrated it just for me. The stillness gave me the space I desperately needed to adjust, heal, and rediscover myself.
One of my greatest blessings during that season was my “Biddies”—three friends who became my lifeline. Four single women navigating life alone, we leaned on each other through the uncertainty. We laughed, cried, supported, and kept each other sane in the middle of a world that felt like it was unraveling. For about a year and a half, life felt surprisingly full and beautiful.
But as the world slowly reopened, my friends returned to their pre-COVID routines. Their lives picked up again—mine didn’t. That’s when the loneliness I had been spared finally caught up with me. The hurt, anger, and grief I had been able to push aside came rushing to the surface.
That’s when I chose therapy. My therapist taught me the importance of learning how to keep myself company—something I had never truly mastered. And not long after, I made another big decision: I was moving to Florida.
I figured if I was going to be lonely, I’d rather be lonely somewhere without winter. In June 2022, I packed up and gave myself a two-year window to see what Florida could offer. I joined a singles group (with a convenient two-year contract), made friends, and eventually met my wonderful boyfriend. When my contract ended and my roommate moved out, I found myself in a cozy one-bedroom apartment, surrounded by good memories, lasting friendships, and a relationship I cherish.
But even with those blessings, loneliness has crept back in over the past year. My boyfriend’s busy schedule means he’s not always around. My friends, no longer bound together by the singles group, have returned to their own lives. We still connect now and then, but my evenings are quieter these days. And truthfully—I don’t mind. I’m not much of a party person anyway. I prefer peaceful nights and productive days.
Still, I sometimes catch myself wondering why the phone doesn’t ring, or why I’m not included in more plans. And yet, I see the difference between who I was back then and who I am now. I’m no longer searching for distractions to fill the silence. Instead, I want to spend my time intentionally—protecting my energy, raising my vibration, and aligning with what truly matters.
So here I am, ready for the next chapter. Over the next twelve months, I plan to educate myself, challenge myself, grow in ways I’ve only dreamed of, and bring those dreams to life.
For Anyone Who Can Relate
If you’ve ever found yourself in a season of transition, heartbreak, or loneliness, know that you are not alone. These times can feel heavy, but they are also powerful opportunities to create something new. A few things that have helped me—and may help you too:
- Find your “Biddies.” Even one or two people who truly “get” you can make all the difference. Seek out friendships where love and support flow both ways.
- Give yourself permission to heal. Therapy, journaling, or simply allowing your feelings to surface without judgment can be transformative.
- Learn to keep yourself company. Take yourself on walks, start a new hobby, or dedicate time to something you’ve always wanted to learn. Your own presence can become comforting, not scary.
- Be intentional with your energy. Pay attention to who and what fills your cup—and who or what drains it. Choose accordingly.
- Create a vision for your next chapter. Even if it feels far away, setting goals or making a plan for the future can give you direction and hope.
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re broken—it often means you’re being given space to rebuild yourself in a stronger, more aligned way.
So if you’re standing where I once stood, trust that this season won’t last forever. Growth is waiting for you, and you get to decide how the next chapter of your story unfolds.
I recently saw a video from a well-known “manifestation specialist” suggesting a hack to stay in alignment throughout the day: set numerous alarms on your phone as reminders to check your vibration and make sure it matches what you’re trying to manifest.
So, I tried it.
I really did.
I really did.
But I didn’t even make it two weeks.
As it turns out, being jolted out of flow every 90 minutes by a robotic alarm didn’t raise my vibe — it tanked it. And it didn’t just stress me out… it rattled everyone around me too. The constant buzzing started to feel less like alignment and more like anxiety.
While I can absolutely see how this technique might be powerful for someone else — especially if they thrive on structure or reminders — it just wasn’t for me. It felt more like spiritual micromanaging than spiritual embodiment.
So I gave it some thought. I sat with the intention behind the idea — the desire to stay present and in sync with my energy — and asked myself:
“How can I check in with myself throughout the day… in a way that feels natural, peaceful, and supportive?”
And a few gentle ideas came forward.
Here Are My Favorite Vibe Check-In Practices (No Alarms Required):
🌿 1. Anchor Your Check-In to Daily Rituals
Instead of setting a timer, attach your check-ins to something you already do:
- When you make your tea or coffee
- When you wash your hands
- When you get into your car or open your computer
Each time, ask yourself:
“How do I feel right now? Am I in alignment with how I want to feel?”
This creates rhythm, not disruption.
✨ 2. Use Physical Anchors
Carry a small object — like a crystal, a ring, or even a coin — and let it become your “vibe touchstone.” Every time you notice or touch it, pause and take a deep breath.
Let that breath be your reminder:
“Realignment is always one breath away.”
🌕 3. Use the Moon Phases as Bigger Check-In Points
Instead of trying to force micro-alignments all day, zoom out and work with natural rhythms.
In my 28-day manifestation journey, we follow the CBAR cycle — Conceive, Believe, Achieve, Receive — aligned with the moon’s phases. Each phase invites a deeper self-check-in, naturally.
In my 28-day manifestation journey, we follow the CBAR cycle — Conceive, Believe, Achieve, Receive — aligned with the moon’s phases. Each phase invites a deeper self-check-in, naturally.
Want to try it?
👉 Learn more about the CBAR Manifestation Cycle here
👉 Learn more about the CBAR Manifestation Cycle here
🌀 4. Ask One Grounding Question Each Day
Instead of checking your vibe constantly, anchor into one question in the morning and revisit it at night. Here are a few to try:
- “What energy do I want to bring into today?”
- “What would being in alignment feel like today?”
- “What would it look like to let today be enough?”
You can keep a small Vibration Journal (even just a few lines a day!) to track what comes up. I include this practice in my 1:1 coaching sessions — especially for folks who prefer a less visual approach to manifestation.
👉 Work with me 1:1
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đź’ś 5. Let Your Body Be Your Feedback System
Your nervous system is wiser than your phone.
Tight jaw? Racing heart? Brain fog? Your body is already signaling that something’s out of sync.
Joyful sigh? Soft shoulders? Clear mind? That’s alignment, baby.
Tight jaw? Racing heart? Brain fog? Your body is already signaling that something’s out of sync.
Joyful sigh? Soft shoulders? Clear mind? That’s alignment, baby.
The more you practice tuning in to how you feel — not just what you're thinking — the more natural these check-ins become.
Alignment Doesn’t Have to Be Loud
What I’ve learned is that staying in alignment doesn’t require constant effort, or external alerts, or spiritual over-engineering.
It requires presence.
Curiosity.
Self-trust.
Curiosity.
Self-trust.
And sometimes, it means ditching someone else’s hack and crafting your own sacred rhythm instead.
So if alarms aren’t your thing, know this: You’re not doing it wrong.
There are softer ways. Wiser ways. Ways that meet you exactly where you are.
There are softer ways. Wiser ways. Ways that meet you exactly where you are.
Ready to explore a more intuitive approach to manifestation — especially if your mind works a little differently?
My programs are designed with spaciousness, play, and deep inner knowing in mind. Whether you’re starting your journey or refining your practice, I’ve got support to meet you there.
My programs are designed with spaciousness, play, and deep inner knowing in mind. Whether you’re starting your journey or refining your practice, I’ve got support to meet you there.
